Dating a smart girl
For a new study, psychologists at the University of Buffalo, California Lutheran University and University of Texas questioned 105 men with a series of experiments and discovered that smart women made them feel less masculine. – that even though most men like the idea of dating an intelligent woman, put them in front of one and that attraction suddenly withers. In theory, men may like the idea of a partner with a successful career; perhaps it plays to their inner George Clooney.
When the Hollywood actor married human rights lawyer Amal Clooney, he made all the right noises: “It’s good to surround yourself with anyone who is smarter than you,” he said, “and for me the bar’s pretty low, anyway.
By making a good first impression, spending some time to get to know each other, and displaying good character, you can attract the attention of a smart girl.
Gentlemen might say they prefer brains to blondes, but it seems that when faced with a romantic evening of oysters with a woman who might have far-superior brain power, many would rather pass to spend it with someone with far less mental wattage.
My wife is an instinctive and enthusiastic early adopter of technology, so she has set up all our computers, i Pads and phones, organised our TV screening services, music downloads and social media accounts, and taken all our banking and bills and our calendar online.
But I have always been happiest with women who are smarter than me. Dating a clever woman opens you up to a world of hurt male pride, and constant reminders of your own woefully slow, Y-chromosome-impeded cognitive ability. If that smart girl is also more physically attractive, more gracious and also a better person (as smart girls tend to be) than you, then you’d better have a pretty solid sense of self-esteem, fella. My clever, beautiful wife was out in the world of work while I was fannying around drinking cider and failing to get laid at university.My school reports were passed around to different family members and celebrated.I attended Godolphin and Latymer school, a selective, all-girls establishment in Hammersmith, so everyone was bright and we were taught to pursue our own idiosyncratic talents.Because of this, she is sharper, quicker and more streetwise than I am (plus the older I get, the less my knowledge of the experimental novels of BS Johnson seems to matter). There was the time she realised I thought Majorca and Mallorca were two different places.The time she learned how gullible I was and started hiding in cupboards to startle me.