Alysha Jeney: With our generation being so used to instant gratification, and used to being so easily accessible to each other, there’s a false sense of connection.I think the dating game is really isolating, even though [millennials] are immersed in so many different options.I didn't have very much fun at it, which is depressing since I didn't pair up until my 30s.Besides, so much luck was involved in my finding my match that there are probably more alternate universes where I'm still living solo than where I'm married.We sat down with Jeney to sort through this massive problem, and to get some practical advice on how to find love in the modern age.
When we unpack that and we start exploring it, building that clarity helps them feel more empowered to be in their own space.
Yep, you read that right — she’s a counselor, a millennial herself, she’s in a successful long-term relationship. Jeney, who is also the founder of the subscription-based Modern Love Box for couples, has been with her partner for about a decade, and has been in private practice for three years.
She sees about 20 to 25 clients per week, mostly couples but many individuals, too, and the majority of her clients are young — age 25 to 33.
People are going on date after date after date and they really want to find a connection, but that takes time, and [their dates] don’t want to go out again or they just want sex.
So I think that if you are going to use [dating apps], my suggestion is to be very upfront and authentic with what your intentions are, and with who you are and what you’re looking for.