But in online dating, men my age are not looking at women my age. The men I do hear from are older than me by 10-15 years and are looking for a far more relaxed lifestyle or trying too hard to be youthful (If it is genuine, great, if not, it’s annoying.) I don’t want to date men who remind me of my dad, who want to eat quiet dinners every night or sit home watching movies.On the flip side, when I meet men in real life, I do attract more of the type I like—my age or younger and energetic.
Women who were ovulating were almost always rated as more attractive.
How does one navigate this “glass ceiling” of aging?
I want to be in a relationship, and I’m worried it’s not going to happen. Here’s what I think about middle-aged men who say that they’re looking for much younger women: it’s often a dream, driven by a midlife crisis or a bruised ego.
Yet, when they find out how old I am or that my kids are in their late teens, they get freaked out (much like they get when they learn I have a Ph D), as if I have tricked them somehow on purpose.
I guess when the right guy comes along, this won’t happen, but I feel very discouraged and am not sure any more where to look to meet anyone.